Friendsmas: Crafting Joyful Traditions and Connection for Chosen Families

Discover the magic of Friendsmas, where you get to choose the traditions you make. Explore how these heartwarming gatherings foster connections and bring inclusive cheer to the holiday season

As the holiday season unfurls its festive charm, many of us cherish the joy of time-honoured traditions and the metaphorical warmth of family gatherings. Yet, for some, the holidays might evoke mixed emotions or feelings of isolation and loneliness. Enter Friendsmas—a delightful fusion of friends and Christmas—where we craft our own traditions, curating moments of joy and connection with our chosen groups of people. Come on a journey with me in this article, and let's explore the magic of Friendsmas and how these gatherings can spread low-key and heartwarming cheer to others who may need it.

Part 1: Reimagining Traditions

Friendsmas isn't just about “decking the halls” or in our case in South Africa - prepping the summer equivalent outdoors; it's about creating our own set of traditions. Whether it's a bring and share feast, a quirky ornament exchange, or a pyjama-themed movie marathon, these gatherings reflect the unique personalities and shared quirks of chosen “families”. To truly understand this, read my next point!

Part 2: The Joy of Chosen Families

In the realm of Friendsmas, 'family' extends beyond blood ties and nuclear family. In adulthood we get the choice to create bonds based on mutual interests and values that delight and ignite our souls! It's about embracing kindred spirits—those friends who are our pillars of support, our partners in laughter, and the ones who understand our unspoken words. These gatherings honour these invaluable relationships. But Friendsmas can be more than this, it can be an opportunity to extend an invite to those friends’ friends - which I’ll get to in a bit. 

Part 3: Crafting Meaningful Connections

Friendsmas isn't just a step and repeat of what you see and do on Christmas; it's about cultivating meaningful connections. From heartfelt conversations to shared laughter and creating new memories, these gatherings forge bonds that withstand the test of time.

Part 4: Bringing Joy to Others

Amidst the sparkle of the season, it's essential to recognize that not everyone experiences the holidays as a time of joy. Friendsmas offers an opportunity to extend kindness by inviting those who might feel lonely or left out during this time. Hosting low-key (think budget and effort-friendly) and inclusive Friendsmas events can sprinkle bits of joy into the lives of others. No one should be isolated or lonely at this time of year. 

Part 5: Nurturing Inclusivity

Friendsmas gatherings often celebrate diversity and inclusivity. Embrace the traditions, beliefs, and celebrations of everyone in the group. It's about honouring each other's uniqueness while creating a shared sense of togetherness.

Part 6: Embracing Festive Spirit

While Friendsmas celebrates the joy of togetherness, it's also about keeping things stress-free and enjoyable. It's okay to prioritise fun and relaxation over extravagant preparations, creating an atmosphere where everyone feels comfortable and welcomed.

Part 7: Reflection and Gratitude

Friendsmas can also be a time for reflection and gratitude. Take a moment to express appreciation for the friendships, the laughter, and the support shared throughout the year. A simple toast or a heartfelt message can go a long way and further connect and solidify friendships. Validation and appreciation are important parts of friendships. 

Conclusion

From the smorgasbord of holiday traditions, Friendsmas is a vibrant new entrant that’s picking up favour in many groups. And why wouldn’t it? — a celebration of chosen families, heartwarming connections and joy. It's a reminder that amidst the commercialisation of the holiday season and the mad year end hustle, the true essence of the holidays lies in creating spaces of warmth, inclusivity, and love for all. So, let's raise a cup of cheer to Friendsmas—the merry celebration of friendship and connection.